Hi Susan,
I'm really glad you shared your experience with us! Thank you! Yes, I understand your grief, for that is what you are feeling, grief. You are grieving for what you had hoped you had, perfect healthy - that healthy body you used to have. And yes, it's a shock to hear the words formally declared now. Our minds want to scream out and say, Well then FIX IT! And this is one time when there's just no fixing the problem. Yet, you knew it all along, Sue, and although it would be nice if they could say that it was all in our heads, but would it really be then? I mean, isn't it just horrible having someone accusing you of being off kilter and that all that you are going through is just "dramatics"? I mean, how good is that? Emotinally and mentally I'd rather have people believe in me when I say I'm sick than have these looks of Yep, there she goes again!, wouldn't you?
Don't grieve, Sue, don't be sad, this is NOT the end! It's not that you've been given a death sentence and it's not a cancer that your life will be shortened. Having that diagnosis, that confirmation as to what it is really is a liberating thing for whether or not you've got the diagnosis you are sick anyway - the diagnosis doesn't change that. But what it does change is the way that people look at you and treat you and also as to how you allow them to treat you as well! Instead of always having these doubts surrounding you, you can say, Sorry, I do have this chronic disease! However, what you can now do is stir up people's admiration for you in how much you are a conquerer and overcomer in how you deal with your chronic illness. You can allow it to take over your life, or you can relegate it to the corner of your life that choose to give it to. It doesn't have to take over, but you can learn how to live a good and healthy life and gain control over it, especially now since your doctors know exactly what they are working with, they will continue adjusting your medications and getting things right until you feel as though this disease is only one more facet of your life and not the whole thing. I can't tell you how much better I feel after having my meds more adjusted! I feel as though I have a life again and I've been able to return to my school and my work and teach and run the school with a new attitude and outlook and even though I still go home tired and needing the bed, I'm able to function and live my life once again! Last year at this time I was totally unable to do this! I was doing nothing more than filling a chair!!!
So, although they are small victories, Sue, they are still victories nonetheless! You need to see this for the victory that it truely is. You're sick, you knew that. But it's best to finally have it oficialized so that people can understand not just your circumstances, but also your behavior. It actually clears the air and the way for IMPROVEMENT!! You'll see, once you get over this shock, you will find that many things will change for the better, trust me!!!
One of the first benefits, Susan is that YOU HAVE NOW PASSED THROUGH THE WORST PHASE! Congratulations! You are now past the most difficult phase of our walks as masto patients, that of getting a diagnosis! Things will greatly improve from now on!!!
So, Susan, what you and your family need to do is to throw a Diagnosis Party!!! Not celebrating that you are sick, but celebrating that finally they have put a name on it and that phase of your life is finally past you! This is a GOOD thing!
I'm only partially diagnosed and I can tell you that I am planning on having a nice big Bar-b-que celebrating it when we finally get my full diagnosis in!! I've got another BMB to do and some other exams as well! So, I plan on celebrating the END of the SEARCH when we finally get those tests done and in!
So, don't get depressed, Susan, but celebrate! CELEBRATE LIFE!!!!!