Itīs a shame that this is such a "touchy" subject because itīs one of the very most important as far as our quality of life is concerned! This is serious stuff!!
Iīve had my husband feel so bad when heīs seen me faint afterwards and it wasnīt even as though I had allowed myself to let go either! Iīve often held my envolvement back knowing I was "on the edge" so as not to have any trouble. Thankfully we woman have this ability, but I wonder how it must be for the men, for itīs a very different matter! Pre-medication is an essential for them I would think.
However, Iīve found that I have much less trouble now that my meds are up to the right levels. Iīm not only more stable in my day to day activities, but in this area of my life I also have gained more stability. There are days when I tell my husband that I canīt be too active and he fully respects that. I never allow myself to get upset or disappointed because I feel no matter how much involvement I get, itīs all good! My husband never feels any pressure from me as to what I get out of it. I had a wise friend once say to us when we were getting married, that the goal of marriage is that of out giving of one to the other. That has stuck with me and Iīve tried to keep this idea throughout my marriage - we both do. And it applies very well in this situation. But itīs been very hard for my husband knowing that this activity has made me sick. But itīs one area of my life where I absolutely refuse to allow it to steal away from me!! Yet it has caused issues and I even had to undergo a vaginal biopsy looking for mast cells for we thought perhaps this was part of the problem. We had found a MC hyperplasia in my cervix when I had my hysterectomy. Having a concentration of MCs anywhere is trouble for us for they will trigger and friction is one of their triggers. Thankfully there were normal numbers and all normal cells but even then, Iīve had real issues! Even my gyno is hesitate for he also has triggered me big time when he had to do a vaginal scraping for some testing! He not only made me immediately faint, but had me so very on the edge from that reaction that the physical process of getting dressed tipped me back over the edge again that I had an attack right there in his office in front of him!! I never saw a doctor run for water so fast in my life!
My poor doctor the things Iīve put him through!!!!
But you are wise Daowebe to not give up hope!! If the one dose of meds doesnīt help, try a double dose, that of the H1 and H2 blocker together. It seems that within the pelvic region the H2 blockers work better, but since this activity gets the blood racing throughout the body, I think that the H1 is more important. At least this is what Dr. Castells suggested. She told me Allegra, which is what I take anyway, so this would translate as to the H1 blocker probably being the more important.
Lisa