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Learning how to explain
03/25/12 at 14:41:24
 
Less than two weeks ago, I was diagnosed with MCAD.  I am having difficulty explaining it to others with getting a "deer in headlights" look. I am sure I am being too scientific, but I am not sure how to simplify it properly.

Tell me what works.
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Reply #1 - 03/25/12 at 15:27:21
 
Yeah... I'm still experimenting with that one Wink

What I tell my co-workers...
"I have a lot of allergies"

What I tell my friends...
"I have an autoimmune disorder that makes me super allergic to lots of things" (more if they're interested)

What I tell my family...
As much as they can stand, focusing on how I feel (nauseated, tired, in pain, dizzy, etc...)

What I tell most doctors...
"I have an anaphylactic disorder triggered by things like heat, sunlight, blood thinners, latex, certain foods, etc..." (followed by as much information as they need/want... which is often not much)

What I told my life insurance company(!)...
"I have a rare disorder called "mast cell activation syndrome."  (I figured... let them try to understand what that means!)

The tricky thing is people who cross the colleague/friend divide.  I want people to know why I'm tired all the time, have so many food restrictions, take a lot of medication, etc... but I also don't want them to make assumptions or feel afraid/sorry for me Embarrassed

Most people... including most nurses/doctors... have no idea what a mast cell is and will not understand the science behind MCAD.  I've learned not to waste my time.  The only people I use that term with are mast cell specialists and mast cell patients.

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Reply #2 - 03/26/12 at 13:14:28
 
Oh I think it's pretty easy to explain. I just say that the things that cause allergies are called mast cells. My mast cells are overly sensitive and yet I have no allergies. Thus when my mast cells go crazy, I get sick with various levels of anaphylaxis. Then I explain that all sorts of things trigger my mast cells, including food, temperature, stress, etc. They pretty much grasp it then.
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Re: Learning how to explain
Reply #3 - 03/26/12 at 14:44:15
 
I've been saying I have an autoimmune mast cell disorder that makes me tired, unable to breathe, and made me allergic to all foods I used to eat.  The response is "Oh I've never heard of that".  My response "Neither has my neurologist, cardiologist, neuropsychiatrist, orthopedist, gynocologist, primary care physician, rheumatologist, allergist, dentist, opthamologist".  LOL.

I've also said I have a lupus-like syndrome.  People understand that.
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Reply #4 - 03/26/12 at 15:26:29
 
Star & PJP;
LOL Grin Grin Grin !
I had to have a mammo, then some x-rays. The tech asked me what it was (thought I put it simply) then she said "oh, it's like my husband- he has MS."   Shocked
You guys have some pretty good answers! Think I'll type some out on small cards n keep em in my purse for just such occaisions!
Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy
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Reply #5 - 04/03/12 at 03:37:47
 
Oh, my gosh, too funny PJP!

Great question with great answers!  I've been saying that part of my immune system is malfunctioning and reacting to things it shouldn't be, resulting in my getting sick.  But, I like these other suggestions so much better!  Will definitely use some of these ideas.

I find the worse part of explaining MCAS (to whomever) is that I hear myself talking and I think the listener must think I sound like Charlie Brown's teacher...WHA, WHA, WHA.... Huh

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Reply #6 - 04/03/12 at 17:14:33
 
Seriously!  I get that impression a lot too. Roll Eyes

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Reply #7 - 04/05/12 at 04:07:52
 
I think I'm sticking to this one which sometimes brings a smile and lessens the intensity of the situation a little.

Some of my cells get really pissed off and they start a fight inside me.  Sometimes I win and sometimes I loose.  My EpiPen is my light saber.
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Reply #8 - 04/06/12 at 04:39:28
 
F.J., I love the explanation with light saber  Grin
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Reply #9 - 04/22/12 at 10:16:49
 
Thanks to ALL of you, I declare this: "I CAN'T STOP LAUGHING DAY!!"   Grin Grin Grin

What an awesome group.... Smiley
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Reply #10 - 04/23/12 at 06:30:20
 
I had this happen this weekend with a tennis friend that I ran into. He said he heard that I had something strange, so I started to explain & I got the dreaded blank stare, which I knew would be followed by the "but you look the picture of health" line that makes me want to cry, so I just quickly turned to, I wore my feet out from so much tennis & that worked fine, as he said that he was at the same place with his knees. I agree with Heather on dividing people down, but with my work people I've settled for being the kooky hypo that they are comfortable with. My doc no longer asks me anything but what is my new plan for meds for the next 6 months as he knows but won't admit that I now know more about my masto than he does. Love the funny lines you all came up with
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Reply #11 - 05/13/12 at 08:14:43
 
I really love the lines that ya'll tell people when trying to explain masto.  My last oncologist at MD Anderson said its are very rare form of Leukemia.  So when I tell someone I have ASM and I get the blank stare I just tell them that.  It really stinks when you go to the ER and have to explain it all to the doctors and they have no clue what your talking about and you end up telling them how to treat you.  My husband had a argue w/an ER doc because the doc didn't believe I was having a severe anaphylaxis because I could still breathe.  Jeesh.  Some nurses have no clue either.  One time after my bmb and aspirate at MD Anderson I woke up w/a reaction to fentynal and prophynol they give you to knock you out,  My husband argued wj/the nurse to give me epi and when she said it wasn't anaphylaxis (again) because I could breathe he broke out the bottle of liquid benedryl from my bag, the nurse called my Oncologist who was upstairs and he confirmed it was anaphylaxis and she had to give me the epi pen.  the doc told me later that they were going to have a meeting with nurses and explain that even though you can breath does not mean its not anaphylaxis for masto patients.
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Reply #12 - 05/19/12 at 13:21:15
 
When people ask me about my illness I tell them that I have a rare disease which has made me horribly allergic.   So, this people get without too much difficulty.  

The tough people to explain this to are the nurses and doctors who ask me, What are you allergic to?    I have always given a long sigh and then said, nothing and yet everything and then tried to reel off the things, cause these things are usually asked for when I'm hospitalized to do a procedure or something of the sort.  

Well, the other day I had a doctor ask me,  Lisa, what are you allergic to?    

LIFE! Doctor, I'm allergic to LIFE!!!    

Her eyes bugged out like this    as she digested the full meaning of what I was saying.    Then they bugged even further when I told her that I had tested negative to allergy testing!
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Reply #13 - 05/20/12 at 10:52:47
 
OH Lisa;
I'm laughing & crying at the same time ! You know my "issue" right now... Well this morning, we discovered someone had hit our beloved "outside"cat-Spanky. My son was coming home from a 12hr. shift & saw him. We were digging as hole in 90* weather. I remembered your 5lb. rule- n told my son to make a bigger hole under our statue of the BVMary- m thro my butt in w/Spanky if anything "happened". I thought the very same thing- LIFE HAPPENS. We have to treat everyone, and every day as though it's our last. I'm tryin.Meanwhile, I'm still workin on being kind to the people that think I'm "catching"....
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Reply #14 - 05/20/12 at 16:12:23
 
Lori,  I don´t think you quite see the OPPORTUNITY you have on your hands, sweety!    If you´ve got people who are shying away from you cause they´re afraid they´re going to "CATCH IT" well, hey, why would you wish to DISCOURAGE them?!     Huh

Face, it sweety, THOSE kinds of people you really DON'T want hanging about bothering you anyway.   LET THEM THINK THEY CAN "CATCH IT"  Shocked   Then they WON'T WANT to come around and will LEAVE YOU IN PEACE!!! Cheesy Grin


Remember -  MAKE LEMONAIDE and be the one who's laughing your head off  Grin  while they're scratching theirs! Huh


ENJOY! Cool
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