Hi Colleen,
Welcome to the Forum! Oh my, you have a full dance card! It does sound as though everyone might improve if correctly diagnosed and medicated.
I agree with what's been said so far but wanted to add a few thoughts. First of all, have you read about the low histamine diet? Some foods contain high levels of histamine and others trigger direct histamine release from mast cells. This can affect the entire body, not just the digestive system. You might want to take a look at it:
www.urticaria.thunderworksinc.com/pages/lowhistamine.htm Many of us have found improvement sticking strictly to this diet. One of the worst problems is leftover meat and both fresh and leftover fish. These can produce large quantities of histamine even overnight. Leftovers are safe if they are portioned and frozen within a couple of hours of cooking.
Interstitial cystitis is not uncommon among mast cell disorder sufferers, and I wonder if that's been ruled out for your daughter. Mast cells can affect nerves, too. Some people find a 1st generation H1 antihistamine, hydroxyzine, helpful with bladder problems. Of course, check with her doc about whether she can tolerate this and whether it's worth trying. It's not known as a dangerous medicine, but it can cause sleepiness as well as occasional reactions in people who are sensitive to it.
Has she been checked for PANDAS (pediatric autoimmune neuropsychiatric disorders associated with streptococcal infections)? That's been linked to enuresis and some behavioral symptoms. That may not even be a possibility, because I don't know her whole symptomology, but I've heard of this from a friend who is a psychiatrist.
As you've found out, you're in "rare" territory now, and some rare possible diagnoses need to be tested and ruled in or out.
As for the abdominal pain and encopresis, it's possible that could be related to a mast cell issue or an infection. Problems in the gi tract can be caused by parasites or bacteria or lack of good flora or an unknown factor that causes an increase in the number of mast cells or too much mast cell activity there. You might ask your doctor about probiotics for children and to have her tested, if she hasn't been, for mastocytic enterocolitis. (BTW, I had horrible abdominal pain and gi dysfunction for much of my childhood that I now think was related to mast cells. I had similar problems before I was diagnosed and treated for a parasite a year ago. "Holding it" can be difficult for an adult with these problems, and much more so for a child. Sudden urgency can occur from a general mast cell degranulation, too.
As with some other gi difficulties, mal-absorption can become a real problem for those with mast cell disorders. Testing for vitamin levels and/or supplementing them can help. B12 deficiency can cause tingling/neuropathy and vitamin D deficiency can contribute to osteoporosis, as you may already know. Magnesium deficiency can cause muscle cramping and pain.
In addition to the H1 and H2 antihistamines, I find that Tylenol helps me with mast cell pain, I think because it inhibits prostaglandins. Singulair can be helpful for some people (at higher doses than for asthma), and cromolyn sodium or ketotifen (readily available in Canada) are mast cell stabilizers. A very good allergist or immunologist might be able to help your family with trials of some of those meds.
Dr. Castells has been very good about consulting with local doctors and guiding them through testing and treatment options. So glad you'll be able to talk with her!
Well, sorry I "talked" your arm off! Do let us know how you are doing! Everyone on this forum really cares and wants to help in any way possible.