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sorry about my bawling rant
10/11/11 at 13:33:24
 
SO sorry to anyone offended by my bawling rant about a particular doctor.  I don't see the post anymore and I'm guessing it's because I named a doctor.  I'm SORRY ABOUT THAT!!!  I totally just overlooked that and was in the heat of distress, sadness, and desperation when I typed it.  
I had been looking for a second opinion for where I'm at because I keep getting worse and a second opinion is always helpful to have.  I appreciate so much everyone willing to help me through that moment and I'm still learning.  I do have POTS/dysautonomia and I think that plays a large role in the MCAD stuff too.  I really don't know what else I could have and I think my doctors feel the same.  I don't get why I have tons of shortness of breath, a total physical activity intolerance, and intolerance to being around people & their chemicals/smells/fragrances/deodorants.  
AGAIN, FORGIVE ME for my rant.  Not angry...just incredibly disappointed and distraught at the time.  I really appreciate the private messages and writings of encouragement.
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Re: sorry about my bawling rant
Reply #1 - 10/12/11 at 01:31:23
 
Wait a gosh darn minute here! You are right that thread is gone! Surel there is a mistake. I can't imagine because you were upset and came here to vent (which MANY of us do) and reached out for guidance during an emotional time (and got good advice from many) that just because you mentioned a doctor that many on here respect and like, that your thread would be removed. There has to be another explanation......Deborah?
Lets find out what happened.
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Re: sorry about my bawling rant
Reply #2 - 10/12/11 at 10:52:56
 
Forum policies prohibit the slamming of other members, non members, and doctors. We are known as an international forum where people can come seeking help, guidance, support, and friendship. It is fine to say that one is very disappointed with their doctor, but we cannot slander that doctor....Did this occur in that post? It is debatable and we do not want to risk losing our forum over legal issues.

I also demand a level of respect for each other and for the doctors. Kim, if someone wrote a post slamming you, I would remove it instantly. I watch out for everyone equally here; it doesn't matter if they have a MD or not.  Over the years I have not only removed a couple posts, but banned a few people from the forum. The reason being that they were causing great distress among others here or using the forum to advertise their business or group. I assure you that I do not remove a post easily. I first discuss it with a group or advisors as well as an attorney. Yes, I did say attorney. When people put things in writing, those of us running the forum must watch to protect it from any legal disputes.

In closing, the post of which we are speaking was written with sincerity and distress.  There was no evil intent and it was with sadness that I removed it. However, the security of the forum always takes priority, because without that we have no forum at all.

Hopefully this clears up your questions.
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Reply #3 - 10/12/11 at 11:41:23
 
  Just this a.m. I heard an ad on the radio for an organization whose mission is to "protect the reputations of doctors on the internet"!!  I couldn't help but wonder if "organization" very possibly meant "law firm."  I have to agree with Debbie for the sake of the forum.  

  In fact, we all have to protect it so it can continue to be the wonderful, safe place for everyone to learn, help ourselves, and assist others on our roads to feeling better and getting answers.  Sometimes our personal roads are full of potholes, and we have to step back and re-think what we thought was the truth of our illnesses.  Not easy.  Still, I hate to see anyone give up the hope of feeling better.  I guess I should post my story so people can see another one that shows it's possible to "come back" from ZERO to living a relatively "normal" life.  Will try to do that soon.

  Jared, if you've been physically checked out for the shortness of breath and nothing has been found, I can't help but wonder if some easy stretching, such as gentle, "restorative" yoga (not power yoga!) might help your breathing and ease you into exercise.  Tight chest and back muscles can restrict the ability to take in air.  Learning to breathe and move differently is great for stress reduction and helps with pain, too.  When I'm flaring, and especially when I'm flaring and stressed, too, this has been very helpful for me.  Your local Y or community center or even a physical therapy center might offer such a class.  If you can afford it, a few private lessons with a yoga instructor might help.  

  It's so easy to become de-conditioned when you're as sick as you've been.  Perhaps Dr. Afrin might be willing to prescribe a gentle physical rehab program, and your insurance might pay for it.  With exercise, as with any other "new" thing being introduced, slow and gentle is best.  I always think of it as sneaking it in under the radar of a reactive body.  I started exercising, when I was at my worst, by walking from my bed to the front door.  After about a week, I walked to the sidewalk and back.  Some days I couldn't get that far.  Now, I can often walk 3-4 miles at a time.  Please don't give up on this!  Set your goals as though you're re-learning everything from scratch.  You CAN do this.

  One other thing is that shortness of breath and muscle weakness can be due to a variety of vitamin and/or mineral deficiencies.  Might be worth doing some internet reading about that and see if something strikes a chord, if the doctors have no other answer.

 

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Reply #4 - 10/12/11 at 14:21:44
 
Jared,

Trust me when I say that there isn´t a single member here who has not felt EXACTLY what you have felt!   So many of us get absolutely DESPERATE for we all know, if the doctor can´t figure out what is wrong, then he can´t treat us and we get so exhausted by the beatings we take and scared by the frightening size of our reactions, and  upset at the loss of control and quality of life that we get angry and frustrated by the time we´re going on doctor #50 or so!!   I honestly don´t think that there´s a single one of us, men or women, who haven´t found themselves crying and literally SOBBING over the treatment we´ve received at times.  I also know that with each new doctor we set up an appointment with, shortly before our appointments we have to talk ourselves down saying, Nah, this one probably won´t be open or know a thing.   Yet, we´re all so stupid because even though we expect that doctor not to know a thing, we still go into their offices with our hopes up!   We´re so dumb sometimes!!


Jared, although I don´t know Dr. Akin personally, I have spoken with him a few times.  He´s an excellent doctor and an authority in masto.  In order for him to get that recognition, he had to master a whole lot of other diseases in the process.  His reputation is gained by the approval of other colleagues and peers for they are who are able to judge whether the man really "gets it".  Yet, I also have to say that he´s got an incredible reputation amongst his patients as well and if you ask anyone on the TMS site, they´ll also tell you what an incredibly compassionate man he is.  Just the fact that he set up a phone appointment with you is evidence of that.  

I very honestly feel that Dr. Akin wasn´t blowing you off, but giving you his honest opinion that you do have something extra going on there.  

Now, although this is what it seems he was saying, could he be wrong?   SURE!   Why?   Because by your not being in his office, with your exam results and allowing him to examine you and to have the benefit of the opinion of another colleague who knows masto, he really can't get an accurate reading of your case!  

Here, let me give you an example:   Dr. Castells has been aiding me with this monster case of mine.  I go through a very, very rare masto reaction called prolonged syncope.  This reaction has been studied only one and it's very likely that she's never seen it in action before.  I've checked amongst patients around the world and other authorities and NOBODY has seen anbody go through what I go through on a weekly basis!!   Well last year my cardiologist told me he wanted an EEG done while in syncope.  I asked her what she thought.  She said "YES! good idea!!  It could be epilepsy!"  So, I did better that my cardiologist asked and got the foremost Brazilian authority in epilepsy to investigate this theory.  My doctors had already done this!  Dr. Castells backed up my cardiologists request feeling it was good.  

I could have gotten bothered by both of these doctors for I'd already done a brain MRI and the EEG 2 years prior to this.  When I spoke with the neurologist, he is who asked for these two exams.   I didn't want to have to repeat what I'd already done before, but there is no way that my cardiologist, Dr. Castells or the neurologist were qualified to really able to determine that this was indeed this rare syncope without having an expert repeat these exams.  Only the neurologist was qualified to say it wasn't epilepsy, but then when I asked him, so is it Syncope, he said, it most certainly appears to be, Yes!   But, is he really qualified to say that?  Well, not really.   You see, it's so very, very , very rare, that we can only deduce that this is what is really is by ruling out EVERYTHING else!!  

It's been incredibly frustrating for me, Jared, because the majority of my doctors either don't have the resources to help me, or they don't feel qualified to do so and so this burden has been on my hands and it seems that the only one pushing for answers is ME!  There are times I want to absolutely EXPLODE with frustration over this because I'm the one who takes the beating and it seems like I can't get a single doctor to take me in hand and take over, the ball is always in my court.  

But I must be FAIR and try to put my feet into their shoes and recognize either their limitations or their inabilities and try to UNDERSTAND what they are up against as well.  This is only right.

Jared, masto is a very rare disease.  It may not be so rare as they used to think, but because of how rare it has been considered, very few doctors are researching it.  It has only been within the past 5 years perhaps that mast cells themselves have become the fashionable cell to study.  Before then, nobody could give a hoot!  Without that study, nobody has considered what the other forms are nor even what the disease really does to our bodies.  Our researchers, like Dr. Akin, are still stuck on trying to discover all the different forms and diagnose them!  I'll bet you anything that they'll love to move on to the other areas of study about masto like how it affects the cardiovascular system or the gastric system!  There's nothing about the neurological system and I'll bet you anything it's a great deal more affected than almost any other part, but nobody's even begun to stick their spike into the iceberg as far as that system goes!  

So, you really must try to understand that Dr. Akin was most likely trying to say that you may have other issues besides the masto and they need investigating.  Once they've been investigated and you come up empty handed, then yes, without a doubt those issues do belong to masto without a doubt.!!

I hope this helps you.

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Reply #5 - 10/12/11 at 23:05:13
 
Lisa wrote on 10/12/11 at 14:21:44:
So, you really must try to understand that Dr. Akin was most likely trying to say that you may have other issues besides the masto and they need investigating.  Once they've been investigated and you come up empty handed, then yes, without a doubt those issues do belong to masto without a doubt.!!

I just wanted to chime in on that last point...

This has happened to me with three different symptoms!!  The first was swollen lymph nodes that just kept growing and wouldn't respond to antibiotics.  That happens sometimes with SM (you can also have enlargement in your spleen and/or liver), but I don't have SM.  I had a large one in my neck surgically removed by a good (local) ENT, but it didn't give me any answers.  The only answer was "it's not cancer."  Great... not cancer... what is it?  I had to travel to another state and see a world-class hematologist to find out Wink  

The second problem I have is abnormal bleeding.  When I flare I get nosebleeds, petechiae, bruising, and even abnormal uterine bleeding.  Freaky.  I saw two hematologists about this specific problem (one local, one at a big teaching hospital) and they ran a bunch of tests... nada!  My von Willebrand's factor is on the low end of normal, but not low enough to treat.  So... this seems to be another symptom related to my mast cell disorder.  Process of elimination.

The third problem I have... which I'm still working on... is recurring, severe abdominal pain.  Numerous appointments with GYNs and GIs have turned up nothing!  I went to see Dr. Castells about this and she suggested I try a strict elimination diet.  I was SKEPTICAL.  When I first started having problems with anaphylaxis, my local allergist misdiagnosed me with food allergies.  But... surprise, surprise, the elimination diet has helped.  I have pollen/latex allergies, plus Dr. Castells thinks I might be having an autoimmune reaction to my own progesterone.  We're still working on it.  Once again... the only reason we know this is related to my mast cell disorder is because I've ruled out every other possibility.

It sucks going from doctor to doctor ruling things out... it's expensive, it's tiring... you get your hopes up only to find out "Well, it's not this."  Unfortunately, like Lisa said, some of the stuff we're dealing with is so rare that 99% of doctors just have no idea what to do!  Even the real specialists are pushed to the limits of their knowledge.

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Reply #6 - 10/13/11 at 01:56:38
 
GRR! How frustrating. I had written a response on this topic and posted it only to get an error. I really should remember to copy before I hit 'post'. Anyway.....

Deborah & Lisa,
Thanks for your reply on the mysterious disappearance of that post. I completely understand and respect your decision to remove it and thank you for your diligent monitoring and protection you offer which could protect our butts when we get emotional or disappointed. This has been an eye opener to me. I know there may have been times when I was so upset that I never even considered the ramifications of what I may have said and whether I mentioned a particular doctor's name or not. Although a few years of experience has definitely taught me that in 'most' cases the doctors really weren't to blame.
So again, thank you very much for all that you ladies do from creating this forum (Deborah), educating so many on this rare and complex disease, supporting so many during emotionally upsetting times, and through all this still having the good common sense to protect us all, patients and doctors alike.

Kim
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