Hey Kim, we know about rarities with masto, don´t we? !!
Yet, what's really so important here is that even though Brie's still got troubles, hers and your circumstances are so much better than what they used to be!! All your hard work has really paid off and I'm so very proud of you for being so persistant in pushing for those answers!!!
You know, Kim, perhaps if you look at Brie's activity from a different viewpoint it may help you and her as well in having more patience with her situation. I understand your discouragement in wishing her to be a 100% normal, healthy child and I know that she gets discouraged too for her masto really gives her a terrible beating. But I've been noticing my own situation and considering those of some of the others of us who also take a beating. I can't help but begin to see that there are phases of activity we get into. I'm not like Deborah or Heather or some others who can find a reprieve and pretty much remain stable. I have phases. Some where I'm taking more of a beating than others. Perhaps I can say that I go through lull's of activity instead and that it's in these lulls that life is more like it used to be where I get an entire day of feeling normal. I've yet to have two days together where there isn't something or other acting up, but at least I'm not feeling so awful as I used to!! I have had an improvement and with masto, any improvement is a victory!
If you can try to keep this perspective, of bearing out the phases of more activity, focusing more on the certainty of a lull coming up to give you a break, it may help the phases of more activity seem a bit less trying and help to enjoy more the lulls. Knowing that these are phases, they are temporary, that they will improve is what has helped me deal with so many unpleasant things in my life. It's been crucial in dealing with pain, for pain is often a very psychological process in that the more you tense up and get anxious with pain, the more intense you feel it. By emotionally and mentally being more pateint, waiting it out, bearing with it, trying not to focus on it, you can get through it better. This was never better shown to me than following my open heart surgery for again, all I had to dull the intense pain was an NSAID no stronger than Ibuprophen and what really got me through it was my attitude, that of repeating to myself - this will be over soon, in a moment the worst will be past and I can breath free for a bit longer.
By working with my pain and difficult circumstances as nothing more than a phase, by only allowing for it to be a moment and work with it during that moment, once the moment passed, I was free and able to relax.
So, helping Brie to see that this is temporary, a phase, that in a bit she'll be in a lull from the reacting and that when that lull comes she can relax and take more advantage of life, this will help her find resources within herself to deal with these things. It will also give you the break from having to deal with a soon to be pre-teen who is tired of taking a beating all the time. If you can teach her now how to find these resources within herself, it will give her the tools to overcome many circumstances beyond just her masto.
I hope this helps a bit, Kim!!
Lisa
PS - it is SOOOOOOOOO GOOD to hear from you. I always have loved the tone of what you write and can't help think of how blessed Brie is to have you for her mom!!!