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Title: Thoughtless remarks...
Post by iamnotalone on 10/15/12 at 07:22:44

Same ol' story;
Okay- so I know we've talked about this before but...
I f one more person makes a "Oh, you don't work?" comment, I may just strangle them !!! >:(
I feel like printing up a resume, showing it to them, then saying;
"Now show me yours" :P
Seriously, I started working when I was 15. Took a few years off til my "baby" was in school, then went back to "work" for another 15 yr.s til I got this disease- from work. (well I truly believe that's what brought it out) :(
Anyway,what do they think I do at home- watch tv while a maid comes in ?! I can't freakin' believe how stupid some people are!
I also babysit my grandson, do the yardwork (3 acres of it), favors for friends in need, etc, because my husband works 5 day/12 hr. shifts: NOT because I "don't work", but because his employer demands it; so I try to pick up the slack at home.
WHEW. That felt good to get off my chest.
I know- I'm gonna print this tirade on a shirt; since I have nothing better to do :D ;D >:(
::)

Title: Re: Thoughtless remarks...
Post by DeborahW, Founder on 10/15/12 at 13:52:54

"Anyway,what do they think I do at home- watch tv while a maid comes in ?!"

WHAT??? This is BAD???? :D Hehe. Not to say that describes me...well maybe it does....LOL

Title: Re: Thoughtless remarks...
Post by PamH on 10/16/12 at 05:04:06

You can just solve this issue by saying you work at home! It really is none of their business anyway!
Pam

Title: Re: Thoughtless remarks...
Post by iamnotalone on 10/17/12 at 06:09:29

Oh Pam;
I just saw this- Perfect ! :D
Now, I'm gonna get after the maid- she's been on the computer too long... ;) ;)

Title: Re: Thoughtless remarks...
Post by Joan on 10/17/12 at 06:50:22

When I was first ill and had to quit work (cancer and undiagnosed SM), I went to a fundraiser. Three different times work came up in conversation with people I didn't know. When I said I didn't have a job outside my home, they walked away as though I'd said I had a highly contagious disease.

It seemed like staying home with my kids negated everything else I'd ever done in my life, and I couldn't possibly have anything interesting to say. After that I would usually say that I was retired, but I used to do.....!

A few times people would ask, condescendingly, "What do you do every day?" I'd say, "I wake up in the morning and think, "What do I want to do today? Then I do that." Of course, the truth most days was (pre-diagnosis), I'd wake up, take my meds, drag myself through getting my kids off to school and then choose between going back to bed or running errands!

Title: Re: Thoughtless remarks...
Post by Lisa on 11/24/12 at 02:49:06

Honestly, I think it´s about time we get some SELF RESPECT going with us!! I think that the reply, IF ANY, you should give when asked this question is:

OH, I´M INDEPENDENTLY WEALTHY!! I DON´T NEED TO WORK!! WHAT DO YOU DO, HMMMMMMMMM???!!!!!!!! :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

Title: Re: Thoughtless remarks...
Post by iamnotalone on 11/27/12 at 05:44:44

Lisa;
You crack me up !!! ;D
I like all of the answers but yours made me think: If someone has the nerve to ask this question, then I should have the nerve to say that !
:D ;D :D
lori